HOW TO BUILD SELF-CONFIDENCE?

HOW TO BUILD SELF-CONFIDENCE?

Confidence plays a huge role in our lives. Often it results in us giving up many opportunities and challenges. How to build self-confidence? Below some specific exercises and methods are presented.

 

1. When am I self-confident or not?

  • Think about your typical day and write down all the activities and behaviour where you show self-confidence (combing hair, talking on the phone with a friend, eating dinner, etc.)
  • List situations in which you need more confidence (contacts with authorities, defence of your own opinion, appearance, public appearances, etc.)

As you can see from this exercise, it’s not that you’re always unsure of yourself. Verify areas where you most need more confidence and concentrate on them first.

2.Profit and loss balance

Consider the following issues:

  • What would give you more confidence? What could you gain?
  • What steals your self-confidence? What do you lose by a lack of confidence?
  • What are your conclusions from this exercise? What do you have more of – profits or losses?

 

3.Resources

In building self-confidence, it is very important to realize your strengths. Write down as many of your resources as  possible, strengths, advantages, skills and experience. Try to find 100 of them! If you have a problem, ask your friends, family or colleagues what they like about you.

4. The small steps method

Make a small-step plan. What are the next stages in building self-confidence that you can set for yourself? Then define small goals to help you achieve measurable results and encourage you to continue working. It is easier to lose weight by setting a goal of 1 kg per month, than 10 kg immediately. It’s worth reading about the KAIZEN methodology.

5. Beliefs

What are your beliefs? Do you think that you never fail? Do you think of yourself as someone who is not able to achieve your goals? Think about your opinion of  yourself and about the world and people around you. Negative beliefs can sabotage development and motivation. If someone thinks that they have no talent for languages, they may have difficulty in motivating themselves to learn a new language and lose their enthusiasm for minor difficulties or failures. Write supportive words on the sheet (I can, I’m able to, I can do it, I am good at ….) and unsupported (I can not, I can not do it, I’m too incompetent / young / old) etc. Which belief blocks you more? What are they taking from you? What would your life look like without them?

 

Working on self-confidence means constantly abandoning the patterns of action, thinking, behaviour or the comfort zone. It may be difficult; it will require a lot of effort, but think about how your life would look if you gain confidence in every situation? It is also worth realizing that this is a long process, but it is an investment that brings a very high rate of return.

 

 

Magdalena Fiałkowska
kontakt@magdalenafialkowska.pl